When you’re a Mum, finding some ‘me time’ can be a pretty difficult thing to do. If you’re not running around after your kids, you’re having a brief cup of tea for five minutes, waiting for the chaos to start up again. In short, there are few times when you’re not rushing around after other people, and the time that you get to yourself is treasured (if it ever comes around). However, we’ve put together some simple tips, for those Mums looking to find ways to get some time out, even if it only means spending an hour with your feet up watching the TV.
However, this guide relies upon one thing: that you don’t feel guilty for having some time to yourself. You’re not exactly going to be able to have a 3 week break from being a Mum any time soon, and you’re not leaving your children or putting yourself first. You’re simply taking some time out, so that you can feel refreshed, and you can be the parent that your kids need, and want. OK, all things clarified. This right here, this is a guilt free zone…
Take a little longer in the bath or shower
OK, we know what you’re thinking. This is a little bit cheeky, is it not? However, having an extra 10 minutes to lie back in that lovely bubble bath, candles going, the chaos of Motherhood floating somewhere in a distant land… we’ve already convinced you, haven’t we? As a busy Mum, you deserve to lie back and enjoy some relaxation, even if it’s only for 15 minutes. You don’t necessarily have to run in the shower, shampoo your hair quickly, and then run back out again (well, not every day, anyway) so leave this idea behind, and get yourself some relaxing bubble bath for the occasion. Yes please!
Get into a TV series
As a parent, you’ll know that you mostly get time to yourself of an evening, and you may be so tired that you just want to watch reruns of The Chase over and over again. We get you, but getting into a good series can really help you to relax and escape into a different world, and it’s a lot more mentally stimulating than Antiques Roadshow (if that’s your thing, we’re sorry). Check out the upcoming TV shows, and see whether anything piques your interest. From crime series to documentaries, there are a lot of things that you could get into if you want to take some time out of an evening, and enjoy an interesting story line.
Don’t be afraid to ask for some help
Being a Mum, especially if you’re a single parent, can be really difficult. No matter whether you have a partner or not, the average Mother only has 17 minutes of ‘me time’ a day, which isn’t really enough time to enjoy anything. If you need a little bit of help, don’t hesitate to reach out to your friends or family, who won’t want you to burn out as a result of having no time to yourself. If you don’t feel comfortable with doing this, then you can also hire a babysitter for the night if you’d prefer. Whatever you do, you need to have some time for yourself, so don’t be afraid to ask for a hand. It’s completely normal to need one!
Take up a hobby
Another way to find some time for yourself is to take up a hobby, and it could be something as simple as going to a bookclub. If your kids go to nursery or school, then socialise with the other Mums and see whether they have something like this in place. It can be good for you to take that time out to read, and then to take some time discussing it with those other Mums who understand what you’re going through. Motherhood can be pretty stressful at times, and you can solely feel like you’re socialising with 5 year olds, which isn’t really good for intellectual stimulation. Take up a hobby, even if it’s only for an hour a week.
Go on playdates
If you don’t think that you’re going to get any time without the kids in the near future, then why not go on a playdate with those Mums whose children are at the same nursery or school as yours? You can also do this with your friends – whether they have kids or not – and you can take the kids to a play barn, for example, whilst you catch up with the people that you care about over coffee. This is a good way to let your kids have a good time in a safe environment, whilst you also benefit by socialising with those in a similar position to you. Look into some places to go, and ask your friends whether they want to get coffee!
Get up before the kids do
We know, when you’re a Mum you really need to get your Zs in to face the day. However, if you wake up even half an hour before your kids do, you will be able to read for a little while, have a coffee before they emerge, and you can also just relax whilst catching up on the news or whatever it is that you want to do. Don’t use this time just for cleaning or your other tasks, as this is not the point here. This is extra time for you! Rise a little earlier, and relax for a while before the chaos of the morning begins. It will enable you to reflect on your plans for the day, and you’ll feel a lot less stressed this way, too.
If you’re looking to fit in some ‘me time’ as a Mum, but you don’t really know how to go about it, why not try out some of these simple tips? From enjoying that bubble bath to getting up before your kids do, there are plenty of ways spend some time on yourself, without having to get too stressed about it. Good luck, and make some time for you. You deserve it!
Thanks for stopping by today, I hope you are able to find some me time!
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