None of us are getting any younger. Since I lost my dad 2 years ago, I realise how precious life is and that we might not be around forever. I know this is quite morbid for a Thursday, but being someone who likes to have things set out and planned in it’s a good time to start thinking about the future and have plans in place. When I was in my 20’s I used to laugh with a work colleague. She had funeral plans and if anything happened to her or her husband and who would care for her daughter. Now I’m the other side of 35 and I’m beginning to think the same! But what plans do I need in place for the future? Where do you start?
Well, the first thing to do is write down and discuss the topic with your partner. This is where it can get tricky. It did for us! We couldn’t decide who would be the girls’ guardian if something untoward happened to either of us. Mr B wanted his brother and I wanted my sister. But we had a little issue here. My sister lives in Canada and we both agree we want the girls brought up over here. So we had to ask her if she was willing to relocate back here to the UK.
Next up is to put a will in place. This is pretty easy to do. We got our local solicitor to come round (before COVID-19) and chat through the process. Making a will I think is pretty easy. We just had to mention that if one passed away first the other would get everything and then it would be passed equally to the girls. We also had a chat through our burial arrangements, Heart of England Funeral Care have lots of options with payment plans and great attention to the detail you require.
Talking with your family about this is tricky. None of us want to think of the future. My dad’s Marie Curie nurses gave my mum so much support when my dad was ill, and having his wishes all set up made it all so much easier. You are helping out the ones left behind by putting plans into place. It will be much easier for them. You may only need an hour or so, but doing this face to face is best. Once it’s all written down and put in place it can be forgotten about and you can go on and enjoy life!
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