Mr B and I have been married 7 years this summer and have been together for coming on 12 years. I know this sounds a little cheesy but we are soul mates and I knew when we got married it would be forever. However, all marriages have their ups and downs, don’t they? In this post, I’m going to explore the benefits of marriage counseling.
I will admit these past 7 weeks in lockdown have tested our marriage for sure. Living and working under the same roof and confined space with 2 young children is tough. It’s tough on your mental health, you become snappy and irritated, so what’s the first thing you do?
You bite back at your nearest and dearest. When some people are in stressful situations they get teasy. This is me. I snap back at Mr B for the tiniest insignificant things. Afterward, I regret this, but those words have done damage I know. Mr B is a much softer, gentler person than me and I know one of my bad faults is taking it out on him. This I know needs to change. There is only so much one can put up with.
There are many reasons why couples feel they need to go down the marriage or couples counseling route. Some of them include, financial pressures, a lack of understanding between the pair, and differing libido. These things can cause resentment.
What can I do to help my marriage?
Well, the first port of call is to talk it out. Agree to some kind of marriage counseling if required. Fortunately, there are many resources out their nowadays and you can even go for free marriage counseling online.
What is marriage counseling?
Marriage counseling or couples therapy as it’s commonly known is there to help couples talk through their issues, understand each other, resolve the issue, and improve the relationship. You both need to be in the position of cooperating together not compromising. A marriage counselor is there to help you to learn the tools to save your marriage.
The benefits of marriage counceling
There are actually quite a few benefits of marriage counseling.
- You can use this time to make your feelings perfectly clear to your partner. Learn how to communicate with each other without resentment.
- Resolve issues. Use the communication skills you have learned to effectively listen to each other and process what is being said to come to an amicable conclusion.
- Work through past unresolved issues. These can be tiresome if someone won’t give in and this has been going on for a while.
- There can be increased development of intimacy and an improved connection.
- A safe place to vent out your thoughts and feelings.
I think the biggest benefit to get out of marriage counseling is learning how to communicate with one another so you can listen to each other. Then go on from there.
Many thanks for stopping by today, I hope you have found this post useful in some way.