I have been thinking a lot about this the past few weeks. Why my daughter won’t have the same or similar childhood as me. Don’t get me wrong my baby is only 6 months old but it’s got me thinking already about what her life will be like as she grows older.
Firstly I want to tell you a bit about my childhood. As a child of the 80’s I grew up alongside my sisters (and later in the 90’s my little brother).
I used to have lots of fun playing around outside in all winds and weathers. Only coming in when it started to get dark. I used to play with anything we found. Not these high-tech games kids have nowadays.
My toys used to be sticks and a shovel and I would play with rocks.
I used to try to dig to Australia digging huge pits! I would make camps under the trees. Collect pieces of smooth glass, rocks and pretty pieces of pottery on the old rough ground near the old mine workings.
I used to love throwing stones down the old mine shafts counting to see how many seconds it would take to hit the bottom.
My dad always said it was a 100ft drop each second it would take to hit the bottom. I loved to hear the stone make a splash in the underground water as it hit the bottom of the mine shaft.
One of my favourite things was to look for fool’s gold on broken pieces of rock. I think this is where my older sister found her love of rocks and became a geologist. Living across the road from old mine buildings was great fun.
So what is the difference between then and now?
Back then it was safer for children to roam about by themselves going on little adventures.
Coming home when you were hungry or it was getting dark.
Nowadays society and the world is different. You hear more about children going missing or being picked up by strangers.
In my opinion it’s just not as safe anymore to let your kids out. I’m sure there are others out there who would argue this saying it’s just as safe, but we hear about bad things happening now due to the power of social media.
Well this blog post is all of my own opinion and my thoughts of society today.
This brings me back to my daughters childhood and how I think today’s children are being brought up.
I know lots of kids today spend so much more time indoors as parents are scared to let them out. They play on games, watch TV and have all the latest gadgets going.
They are going up lacking the sense of adventure, they are missing out on all the benefits of an outside life.
But you can’t blame the parents, it’s just not safe out there anymore.
It’s such a shame to see how everything has changed in the last 20-30 years. I rarely see kids out playing in the streets where I live, but if I do the mother’s are there not very far way.
Only recently a 12-year-old girl on the way to the local school was approached by a man in a car. This was at 8:30am. I hate to think what could have happened. It seems quite a bold thing to do at that time of day, when there are lots of people around heading to work.
As a mum today I know my daughter will not be let out of my sight like we used to be as kids. That’s why my daughter won’t have the childhood I had growing up. I don’t want to deny her the ‘perfect’ childhood and I don’t want to wrap her up in cotton wool.
I suppose it’s all about finding the right balance.
Isn’t that what parenting is all about?
*An extract of this post was first posted on Meet Other Mums