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If you are an introvert or in love with one, you may or may not be familiar with the introvert love language. More often than not, the success of our love relationships depends on how effectively we communicate and not on how much we love each other.
Many passionate relationships are based on differences in temperament and character. But it is precisely these differences that cause the most pain as the relationship progresses. With that in mind, it is critical to understand the love language—both our own and that of our partner.
What is The Love Language of Introverts?
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We may communicate perfectly with some people but also feel we cannot be close to them.
On the other hand, we see some people for the first time, and we understand them so easily, as if we have known each other all our lives. This is exactly what happens when we meet someone who speaks our love language.
According to the theory of love language, there are five ways of expressing or receiving love:
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Physical touch
- Acts of service
- Gifts
The love language is the unique way you express, recognize, give, and receive love. All the introverted personality types have something in common—they all speak the love language of introverts, each with some unique nuances.
ISFJ Love Language
ISFJs are caring, family-oriented types who show their affection mainly through their actions. This means they will often surprise their loved ones with a nice gesture or generously offer their help and support. ISFJs notice the small details about their partners and will compliment them with love and affection. Their willingness to spend time with you is also great proof of their love.
As for physical closeness, ISFJs will not openly ask for it but will gladly accept it and enjoy cuddling. In a relationship, they interpret appreciation and respect as love and enjoy it when they receive it in the same form in which they express it.
ISFP Love Language
ISFPs usually keep all their gentle feelings hidden and only open up when they feel safe. The way to open that door is to give your ISFP partner a lot of genuine attention and time.
If they like you, ISFP will want to spend the entire day with you, listening carefully to everything you say. As they are very sensitive and emotional, they will also provide all the psychological support you need if they love you.
So, in other words, to show love to an ISFP, you need to pay attention to them, spend time with them, and let them feel they are a priority in your life.
ISTJ Love Language
ISTJs are practical, highly efficient individuals who do not crave stage lights. They feel uncomfortable with romantic words and reject sentimentality in general. Spending quality time with their partners is what they need to feel loved.
To show an ISTJ that you love them, plan to spend time together and ask them for ideas on what they would like you to do together. Showing respect and appreciation for what they do and think means more to them than “I love you.” They also enjoy physical contact, though they rarely initiate it.
ISTP Love Language
The senses play a leading role in how ISTPs expresses and receives love. This type needs plenty of gentle physical touch to feel loved. Hugs, kisses, cuddles, warm baths, and massages make these people feel connected with their partner more than anything else.
ISTPs also love to spend lots of time with their loved ones and appreciate acts of service. They are very sensual but not sentimental. Words don’t matter a lot to them—they require closeness from their partner and enjoy intimacy.
INTJ Love Language
Rational and well-organized, INTJs value quality time with their partner as the greatest expression of love. A telltale sign that you are important to them is when they start adding time for you to their agenda.
INTJs also believe that actions speak louder than words and carefully track what you do for them, not how many times you say you love them. Once they feel safe, which usually takes time, they will enjoy sensual pleasures, but they will never be too physically expressive of their love.
INTP Love Language
Just like their INTJ cousins, INTPs prefer quality time with their partner above anything else. This intellectual type enjoys clever conversations and feels deeply touched when you show an interest in what they love.
As sensitive and delicate as they are, they also appreciate words of encouragement, compliments, and emotional support. This kind of interaction makes them feel safe. If the above two communication channels are well covered, they will also enjoy physical touch considerably.
INFJ Love Language
INFJs are very careful to whom they give their trust—not because they are paranoid but because they are so sensitive. They will test your love in many small ways before they decide they can show you their true colors.
They tend to connect with their partners mentally first, so they will enjoy deep, intellectual conversations. As practical as they are, they will show you that you matter to them by planning and spending a lot of time with you.
Though they enjoy physical touch, they will feel loved if you show them your admiration for their intellect, talent, work, or similar.
INFP Love Language
INFPs are generous when it comes to showing their emotions. They make friends easily and are as warm as an introvert can be. But, when it comes to love, it is not so easy for them to relax and connect with the person they are interested in.
They will show their affection by wanting to be close to their partner. They are gentle huggers and enjoy physical expressions of love—not so much sex as cuddling. Every touch is special for an INFP, as they don’t just hug and kiss everyone.
They will also appreciate emotional support, quality time, and interesting conversations in a relationship.
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Key Takeaways
The love language is the unique way in which you express, recognize, give, and receive love. Introverts are generally more attuned to expressing love in nonverbal ways and don’t tolerate sentimentality.
They also need more time to express their affection, so patience is very important at the beginning of the relationship. It may seem challenging at times, but believe us—the amount of emotional support and warmth they can provide once they feel safe and loved with a partner is totally worth it!