New Mum Stories: What if it’s Not?

Welcome back to another installment of New Mum Stories. This week’s story is from a lovely lady called Helen. Helen contacted me asking if she could write a piece for my blog sharing her story with you all. Her new mum story is rather different from most due to her daughter having additional needs from complications as a newborn.

Over to you Helen

I have to lay my cards on the table from the outset:  I’m a pessimist.  I always have been.   A  glass half empty kind of girl.  However, when I was approaching motherhood I was torn  between my natural instinct to expect the negative and the regular daydreams of cradling  and singing to a fuzzy headed newborn, walking hand in hand with a cherub faced toddler  with ice cream running down their chubby fingers or hearing about the exploits of the school  day with a little one talking at 100mph.

What if it's not?

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New Mum Stories: 3 Girls Mummy

Hello and welcome back to another instalment of New Mum Stories. This week I’m featuring Ashleigh from 3 Girls Mummy. Who tells us about her very quick birth of her younger Irish twin.

 

Over to you Ashleigh

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I had my youngest of 3 girls just over 7 weeks ago so I have many stories I could tell throughout the years but I’ll not forget the day after I had my youngest.

Smallest (R) was born 13th July 2016. I went into hospital at 8.30am and she was here by 9.50am! Middle (L) was born 14th July 2015. This makes them Irish Twins. There’s one day less than a year between them.

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Bio Oil, Stretch Marks and a C-Section

When I was pregnant with baby girl I wish I had thought to use Bio-Oil for my stretch marks. I used a stretch mark cream which really wasn’t very good.
Anyway I have been using Bio-Oil recently and it is a wonderful thing. Although I am very proud of my c-section scar I’m using the Bio-Oil to help reduce the purple colour and to help it heal completely. I’m grateful to Bio-Oil for the chance to have tried it.
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How hard is it to breastfeed?

My breastfeeding story starts back when I was 36 weeks pregnant when my mum and midwife both asked me (at different times I may add!) if I was going to breastfeed. I told them yes, I was going to give it a go. My midwife said oh you are such a good girl, it’s very important for baby. I got the feeling from her that she gets a lot of no’s! She left it at that. No tips on how to get the baby to latch on or what you should or shouldn’t eat, how to cope with sore nipples, nothing, zilch.
My mum on the other hand is amazing and full of so much advice. She loves babies and was an excellent stay at home mum. She breastfed all my sisters, brother and I, that’s four of us. She breastfed my younger brother until he was a year old. I don’t really remember much as I was six at the time. 
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My baby girl is now nine weeks old and mum still keeps giving me tips on what not to eat. Don’t eat onion, spicy curry or garlic she says. Oh and don’t touch turnip ( that’s swede to everyone outside Cornwall!!) that used to give your brother terrible wind! I have found with baby girl it’s cabbage that upsets her tummy through my milk. 
Anyway let’s get back on track to my first few hours and days as a breastfeeding mummy. I had an emergency c-section with baby girl so the skin to skin contact which I planned on doing had to wait until I was out of theatre and in recovery. This took longer than I wanted, and was about an hour before she was placed on my chest. My husband had held her all the time from when she was born so she wasn’t lonely. It took two midwives to help me onto my side so I could get baby girl onto my boob, while she was lying down. She was a hungry little girl and was sucking away, I honestly didn’t know whether she got any of the colostrum or not as I wasn’t sure my body was producing anything, it didn’t stop her sucking though! 
For a few days she was sucking and sucking and my milk never made a show. The poor mite was starving and I was so tempted to start bottle feeding her. I couldn’t bare to see her starve any longer. She lost weight and went from 8lb 11oz to 8lb 2oz due to me not giving her what she needed.  I ended up phoning my midwife in a panic nearly crying down the phone because I couldn’t feed my baby. But By day 5 something magic happened! I started dripping milk! It was here at last! I didn’t feel like such a failure or a bad mother.  I’m sure by having that c-section it took slightly longer for my milk to appear. Baby girl is 9 weeks old now and still loving the boob! I’ve expressed milk off for her to have in a bottle but she’s a little reluctant yet to take it, we are still persevering each day with trying her on the bottle. Got to give my little nipples a rest! 
I have to say in those first few weeks I really couldn’t think of anything worse than going down to make a bottle in the middle of the night, especially if you live in a house like ours which is a three storey townhouse so two flights of stairs down into the kitchen. All I had to do was get a boob out and bob’s your uncle! 
Now I look back at those hard first few days and wonder why did I keep going with breastfeeding. My answer – if only you could see the way my 9 week old looks up at me while she is feeding with those big blue eyes. That’s why. 
To answer my own question – How hard can breastfeeding be?
Extremely hard! Tingly boobs, sore cracked nipples. Not being able to lie on your tummy. Not being able to go bra less. Leaky boobs, and I’m sure I sweat milk! 

Did you breast or bottle feed? Do you have a feeding story to tell?



This post was first published on the Meet Other Mums website where I am a regular writer.

April: C-Section Awareness Month

April is c-section awareness month. Before I had my c-section in February I really didn’t know or give a thought about c-section awareness month.

What is it all about?

When we found out we were expecting last May, a c-section did not even enter the conversation. My mum gave birth naturally to four of us, my little sister also with my nephew, so I thought that I would be the same. So I really didn’t need to know about c-sections.
April: C-Section Awareness Month

Even when we were 12 days past our due date and went in to hospital to be induced, we didn’t think about having a c-section. It was only when labour never progressed all weekend and we got to late Monday Morning, when the word C-Section was mentioned by the doctors. At that point all I was concerned about was getting baby girl out safely. My husband and I were both tired and we just wanted her in my arms.

My husband had gone to get something to eat when the doctors came in with the c-section consent form. It was quite funny because I was high on gas and air when they were explaining it to me so I would have agreed to anything at that point. I do remember them saying something to me about blood loss and a hysterectomy but my brain wasn’t functioning correctly. Afterwards I realised that I actually had a quite serious operation, and a c-section is not the easy way out. It wasn’t in my birth plan and not what I wanted. I wrote about my Birth Story in  previous post.

The recovery is hard. I found it hard to walk without tearing open my stitches, found it hard to lift baby girl out of her crib in the middle of the night, and found it hard not being able to drive for 6 weeks….

That is not including the allergic reaction to the chemical wash I had all over my stomach, it was like a burn. Bags of frozen peas were my friends for a while!

So back to Cesarean Awareness Month, What is it all about? Well it aims to raise awareness of cesareans and educate people, all around the world. The campaign supports the need to reduce cesareans in women who do not need them and who will not benefit from a cesarean over a vaginal birth. The campaign also supports mothers who have a vaginal birth after a cesarean (VBAC).

The campaign also raises the the fact that there is a lack of awareness of the complications of a cesarean.

The risks include:

  • Increased risk of Infection
  • Blood clots
  • Intense longer lasting pain therefore more hospital visits
  • Higher blood loss therefore greater risk of having to have a hysterectomy
I wish I knew of these risks before I had my c-section. But at the end of the day my c-section was a category 4 emergency as baby girl was not going to come out any other way. So I had no choice in the matter. Mother’s who elect to have a c-section do.
 

 

The Secret Diary of Agent Spitback

Is this the perfect affordable summer dress?

For a few weeks I have been having a quick look around for an affordable Summer dress. It is for my husband’s nan’s 100th birthday party in the Summer.
 
You might wonder, why am I looking now for a Summer dress? 
Well until the end of this week I am still on full pay from work. Next week it will drop down to statutory maternity pay which is £139.58 a week. Which is less than half of my take home pay. So to cut a long story short I have been trying to get everything I need before my drop in income, when all we should need while I am off is to buy food, oh and my dreaded car insurance in June!
When we walked through the door in Sainsbury’s a couple of Saturday’s ago this gorgeous dress caught my eye. It was actually on one of those skinny mannequins. So my first thoughts, were I bet they don’t stock it in my size! I haven’t long had a baby so although I have got back into my favourite jeans, I am still carrying a bit of extra weight. Which I am truly not going to shift if I keep getting the munchies while I am breastfeeding!
Is this the perfect affordable summer dress?

Anyway lucky for me they had one size 20 left in stock, which is one size up from my regular 18. I simply love the bright orange colour of the dress, and at £22 its a complete bargain. It came with a cute little white belt as well. I love the scooped round neck on the dress, I think it gives it a 1960’s feel.
The white flowery pattern is very pretty, and with the white spots it gives the dress a very stand out feel. Not that I am a very standy out person!
To answer my own question – yes I believe I have found the perfect affordable dress.
I hope you are all having a lovely day.
 
Have you thought about clothes for Summer yet?

 

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