Hello and welcome back to New Mum Stories. This week’s installment is from Jo over at Fifty-Something Fruit Cake Jo’s story is from her memories of being a new mum to her son over 28 years ago.
Over to you Jo….
Remembering being a new mum
I always knew I wanted to be a mum one day. Something in my DNA told me that I should be a mum and that was all there was to it. After 6 years of marriage I found out that my dream was to come true and my first baby was on the way. A trouble free pregnancy and birth followed and apart from a few stitches and a day of bed rest after I fainted in the hospital toilet all was straightforward.
That is until I took my son home. Why had no-one warned me how scary it was looking after a newborn? While I was in hospital all was serene. I fed him, changed him and napped on my bed while he slept. I waddled into the dining room for breakfast, lunch and dinner and chatted to the other new mums as we wandered around in our PJs. We were a happy bunch and had a ball teasing the contraceptive nurse when she suggested we would ever want to have sex again. I loved being a mum and thought I was a natural at it. Did I come down to earth with a bump when I left the cocoon of the maternity ward.
I’m a little late with baby girl’s 9 month review, but this past month has been crazy. I have returned to work as you know, baby girl can now stand up by herself and she has 2 bottom front teeth now.
In her 6 month review last time I told you all about our weaning journey and how I hd been trying to get her on formula during the day time. Well that has kind of worked. When my mum has her while I’m at work, baby girl has her formula, also when she’s with her dad on Saturday’s when I’m at work. But when I’m at home it has to be her ‘booby’ I cannot for the life of me get her to take a bottle. She will throw it out of my hands and grab at my bra straps!
So when she’s with me it’s ‘booby’. She’s such a smart girl and will take her formula when she knows I’m not around. My body seems to have reacted with producing less milk while I’m at work so no sore boobs, yes! and while I’ve been at home Wed-Fri I produce enough for her during the day. Our bodies are just amazing aren’t they?
Being active and playing sports is a crucial part of your child’s progress. It’s good to install exercise as part of a daily routine from a very young age. Children should be physically active every single day. This may seem obvious, but it’s easier as they get older to leave them to their own devices. Unfortunately, in the digital world that we live in this, could mean the spend a lot of their time in the front of a screen. A cell phone is never far from a teenagers hand, so it’s only fair that you set the right example. Team sports and fitness will encourage good habits and help keep them healthy. It’s an integral part of their growing up and can be an excellent way to get them socializing and making friends. There are so many different aspects to playing sports. Even when they’re feeling dubious about joining in, you need to encourage them.
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Test and try
You and your child might end up trying ten different extracurricular activities before they fall on something that they like to do. It’s important that you don’t enforce your views on what they should be doing too forcefully. Just because you dreamed of being a ballerina doesn’t mean that they should be one! Try to let everything happen as naturally and don’t discard something because it’s not your choice. Let them be creative and encourage them. Learning to play a new sport is a good way for a child to find out a little more about themselves. It’s also an excellent way for you to get to know them too!
When you have a child your life changes in ways you never could have imagined. Suddenly your full attention is on another human being. Everything you do is ultimately for them. Taking care of yourself often becomes secondary. But it’s not wise to completely set aside your own needs. Parents who are tired, ill, and unfulfilled will not be able to offer the best care for their child. So it makes sense to factor your own health and happiness into the equation.
New babies require lots of stuff. From the moment you found you were pregnant you probably started putting together a maternity checklist. But I bet it didn’t include items for parents. Consider setting up your own list of items to keep you fit, well, and happy during the early years. It needn’t cost a fortune; just a few items to make life a little easier.
- A few paperbacks for when the baby is sleeping, and you’re not
- Magazines to leaf through for the scarce 10-minute break
- Bath products for R&R
- Comfy lounge pants and slippers for 4:00 am feeds and the rest of day if needed
- List of Netflix and Prime films and series
- Healthy food and the odd treat
- Music playlist for quick workouts and relaxing
Hello and welcome back to nother installment of New Mum Stories. This week I’m honoured to present Angela from The Inspiration Edit. Angela shares with us her story of being a single mum.
Over To You Angela…
My New Mum Story
I always wanted to be a mother, It’s been a dream of mine for a long time and when I finally fell pregnant through fertility treatment in 2008 I was super excited. After my daughter Sylvia was born I just fell in love with her straight away, her little tiny body, her feet and hands, her button nose and her baby smell.
I remember giving Sylvia her first bath at the hospital and putting almond oil on her skin. I did it because I was told I should. I was told what I should be doing a lot and really had no idea so I just did my best to care for this little human the best I could.
We are now three weeks into our new routine. Going back to work after 10 months off was hard. I’m currently working 3 days a week until December when I move back to the full 5 days a week. So not looking forward to that. I think 3 days is the perfect balance for us.
That first Monday was hard. It broke my heart to leave her. I knew she would be fine with my parents though. When I went to pick her up at 4pm her little arms and legs were going and she practically jumped into my arms. She cuddles into me laughing and smiling away. It was an emotional moment.
The second day was much better. Baby girl is loving being spoilt by my dad – her papa. He makes her laugh and giggle all the time. This second week is now easier. We are into a good routine now. Getting up at 5:15am is hard but we all go to bed early.