How hard is it to breastfeed?

My breastfeeding story starts back when I was 36 weeks pregnant when my mum and midwife both asked me (at different times I may add!) if I was going to breastfeed. I told them yes, I was going to give it a go. My midwife said oh you are such a good girl, it’s very important for baby. I got the feeling from her that she gets a lot of no’s! She left it at that. No tips on how to get the baby to latch on or what you should or shouldn’t eat, how to cope with sore nipples, nothing, zilch.
My mum on the other hand is amazing and full of so much advice. She loves babies and was an excellent stay at home mum. She breastfed all my sisters, brother and I, that’s four of us. She breastfed my younger brother until he was a year old. I don’t really remember much as I was six at the time. 
breastfeeding - c section - bottle feeding

My baby girl is now nine weeks old and mum still keeps giving me tips on what not to eat. Don’t eat onion, spicy curry or garlic she says. Oh and don’t touch turnip ( that’s swede to everyone outside Cornwall!!) that used to give your brother terrible wind! I have found with baby girl it’s cabbage that upsets her tummy through my milk. 
Anyway let’s get back on track to my first few hours and days as a breastfeeding mummy. I had an emergency c-section with baby girl so the skin to skin contact which I planned on doing had to wait until I was out of theatre and in recovery. This took longer than I wanted, and was about an hour before she was placed on my chest. My husband had held her all the time from when she was born so she wasn’t lonely. It took two midwives to help me onto my side so I could get baby girl onto my boob, while she was lying down. She was a hungry little girl and was sucking away, I honestly didn’t know whether she got any of the colostrum or not as I wasn’t sure my body was producing anything, it didn’t stop her sucking though! 
For a few days she was sucking and sucking and my milk never made a show. The poor mite was starving and I was so tempted to start bottle feeding her. I couldn’t bare to see her starve any longer. She lost weight and went from 8lb 11oz to 8lb 2oz due to me not giving her what she needed.  I ended up phoning my midwife in a panic nearly crying down the phone because I couldn’t feed my baby. But By day 5 something magic happened! I started dripping milk! It was here at last! I didn’t feel like such a failure or a bad mother.  I’m sure by having that c-section it took slightly longer for my milk to appear. Baby girl is 9 weeks old now and still loving the boob! I’ve expressed milk off for her to have in a bottle but she’s a little reluctant yet to take it, we are still persevering each day with trying her on the bottle. Got to give my little nipples a rest! 
I have to say in those first few weeks I really couldn’t think of anything worse than going down to make a bottle in the middle of the night, especially if you live in a house like ours which is a three storey townhouse so two flights of stairs down into the kitchen. All I had to do was get a boob out and bob’s your uncle! 
Now I look back at those hard first few days and wonder why did I keep going with breastfeeding. My answer – if only you could see the way my 9 week old looks up at me while she is feeding with those big blue eyes. That’s why. 
To answer my own question – How hard can breastfeeding be?
Extremely hard! Tingly boobs, sore cracked nipples. Not being able to lie on your tummy. Not being able to go bra less. Leaky boobs, and I’m sure I sweat milk! 

Did you breast or bottle feed? Do you have a feeding story to tell?



This post was first published on the Meet Other Mums website where I am a regular writer.

My Sunday Photo 01/05/2016

With April being very cold it was lovely to see my gorgeous drawf tulips blooming on the patio. I managed to get this photo on a cold but sunny day this week.
Sunday-photo-drawf tulips-red - flowers
Happy Sunday!


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May Bucket List

I hope you all have had a great month. April has had pretty poor weather, so here’s wishing May is so much more warmer!
I have had a fantastic blogging month for April which you can read about next week in my April Roundup post.  My followers have increased lots, so thank you to all of you for taking the time to follow me, and read about my ramblings on!
May Bucket List

Here are my lists of statistics and things I need to do for the month of May:
Books to Read and Review:

1) Six Tudor Queens by Alison Weir
2) Let There Be Linda by Rich Leder
3) Geek Girl by Holly Smale
4) Finding Home by Lauren Westwood
5) Last Rituals by Yrsa Sigurdardottir and Bernard Scudder
Increase Social Media Followers

My Current numbers from April are: 
   Twitter 2258 (+262)
    Facebook 244 (+11)
  Instagram 283 (+4)
Pinterest 241 (+3)
So I have increased followers on all areas if only by a little! Twitter is my favourite so I am on there practically each hour of the day! My Aim for next month is to work on the other areas one at a time. I think the hardest is Facebook.
Blog Statistics for April

Page Views 2259 (+670)
Unique Monthly Users 811 (+132)
Posts Published 28
Blog Domain Authority (DA) 21
  • As always I look forward to the challenge of increasing my blog page views. I believe in commenting lots, on other blogs bringing backlinks to yours. So I’m going to make a special effort in joining lots of blog linkies and commenting.

  • I am having a new blog header and a badge created because I’m not happy with my attempts. This is something I am very excited about! Watch this space!

  • I need to look at adding my own social media buttons instead of using that ghastly plug in which I am not keen on. 

  • Arrange another blog competition.

  • I am joining the Blog Everyday in May Challenge (BEDM) as well. I did it last year and only missed out 2 days which was really great considering I was suffering from horrendous morning sickness. Lets see how far I get this year with a 3 month old!


I hope you all have a great month and a Happy Bank Holiday!

Twinderelmo

Word of the Week – Planning 29/04/2016

Here we are again! It’s Friday! Happy Friday! I hope you all have that Friday feeling especially as it’s a bank holiday weekend! I know I’ve got the Friday feeling as it means we get 3 whole days of family time. We don’t plan on doing too much this weekend – I really need to do some housework though! My husband deserves a relaxing weekend as he’s had a tiresome week. 
On Wednesday he had to drive to Bristol for an all day meeting, which if you live in Cornwall that means a 3 hour drive there and back the same day. Plus he still had to get up at 5:20am the next day for work again. It’s hard for him with an 11 week old baby as well that wakes up for her dream feeds at 4am. So I plan on giving him a nice chilled out weekend where he can sit and watch the Russian Grand Prix on Sunday afternoon. 
So now that it’s the end of another week it’s time to find one word that sums up the week I’ve had. 
This weeks word of the week is Planning
Word of the Week - Planning 29/04/2016

This week has been a big planning week for me, that’s why I’m using it as my Word of the Week. 
I have been planning lots of different blog posts. From book reviews, to a fashion post and of course a few baby posts thrown in. 
In terms of my blog for planning, this week has been my biggest week yet for being contacted by brands for reviews. I have had quite a few, so I’ve been a busy bee planning what to post where and when. I’m so excited!!! 
Another thing I’ve been planning for is to take up the blogging everyday in May challenge run by rosalilium. There is a calender on her link up which you can use for topics each day to write about, or you can use your own. I will most likely be using my own topics unless I get stuck! 
I took up blogging everyday (#BEDM) in May last year and only managed to miss two posts! This year I want to complete it! 
I’m fairly confident I can achieve this, as this month I’ve only missed a couple of days of blogging and I’m sure good planning will see me through. 
Onto a bit of personal planning. My husband and I have have also decided in 6 years time to have the holiday of a lifetime at Disneyland, Florida. It will be for his 40th and baby girls 6th birthdays. We decided to start planning how much we can save and put it in a separate little account. I know if we don’t start saving a bit each month we will get stuck when the time comes. The thing is, we are also planning on moving in those years between as well, that’s why we decided we needed a separate holiday fund pot. I love to plan ahead for things! 
I hope you have all had a good week. 
Have a great bank holiday weekend and hopefully the weather will be nice! 
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A Cornish Mum

7 Reasons Why Babies Cry and Tips on How You Can Soothe Them

Hello, I hope you are having a great week so far, this weeks 7 series is on Why Babies Cry and How To Soothe Them.

Babies cry for a reason. They are looking to get your attention. Before I had baby girl I read up on lots of little bits and pieces about babies, and Reasons Why Babies Cry and How To Soothe Them was one of them.
7 Reasons Why Babies Cry and Tips on How You Can Soothe Them

Now as a new mum I am starting to distinguish between the different cries from baby girl. These are my findings.
7 reasons why babies cry:
  1. Hunger– I have found this is the most common reason why babies cry. Baby girl is breastfed and when she was first born she used to get really fussy every hour. I found out this was because her stomach was very tiny and breastmilk is easily digested. So I fed her on demand. It’s a great way of building up your milk supply too.
  2. They just want to – Babies sometimes cry for no reason. Baby girl did this when we brought her home for a few hours each evening before bedtime. We called this her fussy time!
  3. Just want to be held – Some babies just want that body contact and closeness of being held. Especially newborns.
  4. Tired – Babies can get over stimulated and then they cry for being over tired. Baby girl is like this when she has been on her play mat for a while.
  5. Nappy needs changing – Some babies don’t like the feeling of a wet nappy. Baby girl is very much like this, she fusses like crazy when she has a wet nappy. Hence an enormous amount of nappy changes! Some babies only cry if their skin gets irritated by a wet nappy.
  6. Too Hot or Too Cold – Babies don’t like to be hot or cold, they like a temperature in between. Roughly around 18 degrees.
  7. Feeling Unwell – If a baby is unwell, you will know. These cries will be different. More high pitched, urgent, continuous and could be weaker. 
These a few tips on how to soothe your crying baby. Every baby is different so some of these might or might not work for you.
  • Babies love sounds. They are used to being inside you hearing your heartbeat. Our baby girl loves any type of music. The sounds of vacuum cleaners and washing machines are said to soothe them as well. You can buy White Noise CD’s as well which are very calming.
  • Rock your baby. They love being rocked gently back and forth, whether in your arms or a baby swing.
  • Baby massage or tummy rub. Gently massage tummy in a clockwise direction, using a lotion or baby oil. I use Johnson’s Bedtime baby lotion. It smells gorgeous!.
  • Babies love to suck on something. Whether it be a dummy or your breast.
  • A warm Bath. Some babies love to have a bath which is very relaxing and soothing.
I hope these tips are very useful to you if you are a new mum. 
If you have any other tips I would love to hear them.
Petite Pudding

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April: C-Section Awareness Month

April is c-section awareness month. Before I had my c-section in February I really didn’t know or give a thought about c-section awareness month.

What is it all about?

When we found out we were expecting last May, a c-section did not even enter the conversation. My mum gave birth naturally to four of us, my little sister also with my nephew, so I thought that I would be the same. So I really didn’t need to know about c-sections.
April: C-Section Awareness Month

Even when we were 12 days past our due date and went in to hospital to be induced, we didn’t think about having a c-section. It was only when labour never progressed all weekend and we got to late Monday Morning, when the word C-Section was mentioned by the doctors. At that point all I was concerned about was getting baby girl out safely. My husband and I were both tired and we just wanted her in my arms.

My husband had gone to get something to eat when the doctors came in with the c-section consent form. It was quite funny because I was high on gas and air when they were explaining it to me so I would have agreed to anything at that point. I do remember them saying something to me about blood loss and a hysterectomy but my brain wasn’t functioning correctly. Afterwards I realised that I actually had a quite serious operation, and a c-section is not the easy way out. It wasn’t in my birth plan and not what I wanted. I wrote about my Birth Story in  previous post.

The recovery is hard. I found it hard to walk without tearing open my stitches, found it hard to lift baby girl out of her crib in the middle of the night, and found it hard not being able to drive for 6 weeks….

That is not including the allergic reaction to the chemical wash I had all over my stomach, it was like a burn. Bags of frozen peas were my friends for a while!

So back to Cesarean Awareness Month, What is it all about? Well it aims to raise awareness of cesareans and educate people, all around the world. The campaign supports the need to reduce cesareans in women who do not need them and who will not benefit from a cesarean over a vaginal birth. The campaign also supports mothers who have a vaginal birth after a cesarean (VBAC).

The campaign also raises the the fact that there is a lack of awareness of the complications of a cesarean.

The risks include:

  • Increased risk of Infection
  • Blood clots
  • Intense longer lasting pain therefore more hospital visits
  • Higher blood loss therefore greater risk of having to have a hysterectomy
I wish I knew of these risks before I had my c-section. But at the end of the day my c-section was a category 4 emergency as baby girl was not going to come out any other way. So I had no choice in the matter. Mother’s who elect to have a c-section do.
 

 

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