Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve had a few spare ‘rare’ moments where I’ve picked up a book and a novella for reading. When I was asked if I wanted to review Let Them Eat Dirt by B Brett Finlay and Marie-Claire Arrieta, it was not a book I could turn down. I have always been interested in Science especially diseases, microbes and health since my biology teacher at school introduced me to cells! I do think in another lifetime I would have entered a career in the Science field. As a matter of fact it was only a couple of years ago that I had to stop doing my Open University degree in the Sciences due to limiting funds.
I have also been catching up on a little novella by Australian author Bridgett Leslie called Twelve Bells. If you love reading as much as I do but have limited time, novella’s are wonderful short stories that are perfect to fill a little gap.
Hello and welcome back to another Saturday installment of New Mum Stories. This week I’m featuring Estefania from The Spanish Mom. Estefania writes a letter back to her previous self before becoming a mother which I’m sure we can all relate to!
Over to you Estefania..
Lately I’ve been thinking about how my life was before having a baby… It amazes me how clueless I was back then about what it takes to be a mother and how hard it is to take care of a baby. Obviously I’m not an expert now (I’ve only been a mother for three months) but it is just a fact that you don’t know what you are dealing with until you are muddling through motherhood yourself.
Do I regret any of the decisions that I’ve made in the past few months? Not at all. But there are some things that I definitely would have done differently if I would have known better… So I wonder, if I would have the chance to give myself some piece of advise ahead of time, what would it be? Here’s the letter that I would send to myself:
Letter to my previous self:
You still don’t know it but in a few months from now you are going to get pregnant. Yes, after only a couple of months trying you will hit the jackpot and your life will be turned upside down faster than you think. For this reason, I want you to read these lines carefully and consider seriously what I’m about to tell you:
- Nothing compares to the joy of being a mother, but this joy comes together with a lot of work…hard work. Being a mother is not what you see in the movies and the toughest part about taking care of a baby is NOT changing diapers… that’s actually the easiest part! You are going to have to juggle with a million things at the same time while being extremely tired because of the lack of sleep. Don’t worry though, you will learn how strong you are and taking care of your baby will slowly come out naturally.
- Remember when you were worried about you not being mother-material because you thought you would get bored? Well, nothing further from reality. Believe me, you won’t get enough of your baby! You will be able to spend hours and hours just looking at him and there will always be something new to discover. Time will fly when you are with him and boredom will be the last word in your vocabulary.
- Keep your mind open and go with the flow – I know that planning things make you feel less anxious but you have to learn that there are several aspects that will be out of your control when you become a mother so you need to keep your mind open when the time comes. You may have a lot of plans in your head about your pregnancy, your labor and how you will take care of your baby but there are way too many unknown factors that will push you to do things or make decisions that are unthinkable for you today.
- Don’t judge other mothers. Period: In motherhood there’s no black or white, right or wrong; motherhood has a lot of different shades and you (like other moms) deserve being able to choose what best suits you and your baby without being judged. You don’t know the background story of every mom so don’t you ever judge them because they are not breastfeeding or because they decide to have a planned c-section instead of a natural birth. Be supportive and understanding because that’s what a mother needs the most.
- Although you won’t judge, there are other people that will – Be strong and don’t let those comments affect you at all. Keep in mind that it doesn’t matter what you do, when you are a mother there will always be someone that won’t agree with your approach and will criticize your decisions. Don’t listen to them and don’t let them bring you down. You will do your best and that’s what matters.
- Enjoy your independence while it lasts – Once the little munchkin is born it will no longer be just YOU, it will be YOU and THE BABY. You will be conditioned to his needs and you won’t be able to do whatever you want whenever you want it. I’m even talking about the most basic stuff such as eat, sleep or shower! Don’t worry though, you won’t want to be apart from him anyways so this loss of independence won’t be such a big deal.
- Take care of yourself!– You need to take care of yourself first if you want to take care of the baby. The first week of his life will be so hectic and tough that you will be exclusively focused on him to the point that you will even stop eating! I understand that motherhood is so overwhelming that you won’t have the time to think but please, listen to the people around you and take good care of yourself. Leave baby with your husband for a little while and take care of your well-being. If you get sick you won’t be strong enough to take care of the little peanut and this is not what you want.
- Let your husband help you and let him be a parent too – You won’t want to be away from your baby more than 5 seconds but you NEED to share your baby with him too. It’s not only about the responsibilities, it’s also about them being able to bond and spend time together. You don’t have to be a super-mom trying to do everything by yourself AND, moreover, you both have to act like a team and enjoy joint parenting in every single sense.
- Time flies: Everybody will tell you ‘Enjoy every moment, time flies” and I know that it sounds corny to you today but it is just the truth. So stop rolling your eyes when you hear someone saying it because they are completely right. Caress every single moment with the little munchkin because he will grow from newborn baby to infant, from infant to toddlers in the blink of an eye… Oh! and keep a diary of everything because you will forget the milestones fast. It seems unbelievable that you will forget about the first time he smiled at you or the first time he grabbed your finger… Believe me, everything goes so fast and there are so many things going on at the same time and you have so little sleep that everything will turn into a foggy memory eventually. Keep a diary and the memories will last forever!
- Just one more thing before letting you go… don’t over think it. Motherhood is a “learn-as-you-go” experience so just enjoy the ride!
Lots of love…
The Spanish Mom
Thank you Estefania for your beautiful letter.
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It’s a good idea to get your children involved in managing the home while they’re still young. But this isn’t about making them do the housework as some kind of punishment. It can be made fun and interesting for them if you take the right kind of approach. In fact, there are some tasks around the home that always offer great ways to have family fun. So, get them started early, and show them that helping around the home doesn’t have to be a chore.
Now baby girl is 8 months old she is really getting into her books. We love to have a few minutes reading and looking through books. As you know I’m a huge book lover and I want her to have a similar love of books.
We were sent a lovely bright and colourful book called Jungle Jam to review. I’m also running a giveaway for your own chance to win a copy at the end of the post.
Not everyone plans on growing trees in their garden. You might plant them yourself. But often you end up buying or renting a property that comes complete with trees. You might not be keen on caring for them, but perhaps you enjoy the way they look. Many trees don’t need much maintenance. But there are certain issues to which you might need to pay close attention. You might need to protect your trees from disease. You may need to keep the branches trimmed back or protect a tree’s roots. It’s possible to hire someone to care for your trees, but keen gardeners prefer to try it themselves. However, there can be challenges in caring for trees, due to their size.
Know Your Tree
If you want to care for your trees properly, it’s a good idea to get to know them first. If you plant them yourself, you know what they are. You’ve probably done some research on the care they need to make sure that it’s suitable for your level. However, if you’ve inherited a tree with a new house, you might not even know what it is. Your first job is to identify it so that you know how it grows and what you need to do to look after it. It’s important to be aware of issues such as whether it’s sensitive to the cold or any diseases.
I never expected my maternity leave to go so fast.
Roll back 10 months
I’m getting up at 4:45, that’s not true. My husband is pulling me up out of bed at 8 months pregnant to go to work on my last day. That day has come. Normality as we know it is disappearing. The next time I walk through these doors at work I will be a mum.
So here I am sitting on my stairs struggling to tie up the laces on my safety boots. Just think Rach in 10 hours time you will be free of work for 10 whole months. Truthfully all I’m thinking about is getting through this day. Baby girl loves to lie on my sciatica nerve. Standing on your feet all day is no joke. Might have to find a place to hide in!
Rest up feet up!
That won’t happen as its a Saturday.