Why My Daughter Will Have A Different Childhood To Me

I have been thinking a lot about this the past few weeks. Why my daughter won’t have the same or similar childhood as me. Don’t get me wrong my baby is only 6 months old but it’s got me thinking already about what her life will be like as she grows older. 

My Childhood

Firstly I want to tell you a bit about my childhood. As a child of the 80’s I grew up alongside my sisters (and later in the 90’s my little brother). 

I used to have lots of fun playing around outside in all winds and weathers. Only coming in when it started to get dark. I used to play with anything we found. Not these high-tech games kids have nowadays. 

My toys used to be sticks and a shovel and I would play with rocks. 

Good Ole Daysm- childhood memories

I used to try to dig to Australia digging huge pits!  I would make camps under the trees. Collect pieces of smooth glass, rocks and pretty pieces of pottery on the old rough ground near the old mine workings. 

I used to love throwing stones down the old mine shafts counting to see how many seconds it would take to hit the bottom. 

My dad always said it was a 100ft drop each second it would take to hit the bottom. I loved to hear the stone make a splash in the underground water as it hit the bottom of the mine shaft. 

One of my favourite things was to look for fool’s gold on broken pieces of rock. I think this is where my older sister found her love of rocks and became a geologist. Living across the road from old mine buildings was great fun. 

So what is the difference between then and now? 

Back then it was safer for children to roam about by themselves going on little adventures. 

Coming home when you were hungry or it was getting dark. 

Today

Nowadays society and the world is different. You hear more about children going missing or being picked up by strangers. 

In my opinion it’s just not as safe anymore to let your kids out. I’m sure there are others out there who would argue this saying it’s just as safe, but we hear about bad things happening now due to the power of social media.

Well this blog post is all of my own opinion and my thoughts of society today.

This brings me back to my daughters childhood and how I think today’s children are being brought up. 

I know lots of kids today spend so much more time indoors as parents are scared to let them out. They play on games, watch TV and have all the latest gadgets going. 

They are going up lacking the sense of adventure, they are missing out on all the benefits of an outside life.

The Freedom. 

But you can’t blame the parents, it’s just not safe out there anymore.

It’s such a shame to see how everything has changed in the last 20-30 years. I rarely see kids out playing in the streets where I live, but if I do the mother’s are there not very far way.

Only recently a 12-year-old girl on the way to the local school was approached by a man in a car. This was at 8:30am. I hate to think what could have happened. It seems quite a bold thing to do at that time of day, when there are lots of people around heading to work.

As a mum today I know my daughter will not be let out of my sight like we used to be as kids. That’s why my daughter won’t have the childhood I had growing up. I don’t want to deny her the ‘perfect’ childhood and I don’t want to wrap her up in cotton wool. 

I suppose it’s all about finding the right balance.

Isn’t that what parenting is all about?

rachelbustin.com

*An extract of this post was first posted on Meet Other Mums 

 Diary of an imperfect mum

 

Diary of an imperfect mum

15 Comments

  1. August 3, 2016 / 11:23 am

    this really resonated with me – I had such a wonderful childhood in the same era as you and it makes me sad my daughter won’t have the same freedom to explore as I had. But like you it’s all about finding the right balance

    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime #triballove

  2. July 29, 2016 / 10:35 pm

    I think we’re quite lucky where we are out in the sticks. N has freedom at home, and his older nephews are able to cycle between our houses, and have the freedom to head out in the countryside on their own.

    Their life isn’t that much different to the level of freedom we had as children apart from them not having lots of other kids to play with day in day out outside the house.

    I think it’s really sad how few children are able to play out now. I do think a lot of the issues are more out in the open now with the media vs years ago where these things were probably hidden away better.

  3. July 29, 2016 / 2:20 pm

    Its only right to think about it. It’s about giving them a safe outdoors. Very difficult really. I’m sure I’ll want to address the issue in the coming years as he grows and wants to go out. #ablogginggoodtime

  4. July 29, 2016 / 10:49 am

    I think about this a lot as well. When I was a child we lived in a quiet cul de sac, and there were loads of us who were all around a similar age and would play together, and our parents didn’t mind as long as we didn’t go too far. There’s nothing like that for my little one where we live now, which makes me so sad! x
    #triballove

  5. July 29, 2016 / 6:11 am

    My eldest daughter has been going on scout camps since she was 11 and this year at 16, she went down to London by herself and visited some art galleries alone because that’s what she fancied doing. We’ve let all our kids start walking home alone in year 6 as preparation for travelling to and from high school independently. It’s terrifying letting your kids go out alone at first but confining them so that they don’t develop the skills, confidence and wisdom for adult life scares me more.

  6. July 28, 2016 / 8:29 pm

    #ablogginggoodtime please don’t confine her – that’s how society continues to breed children who have no resilience. There is always a balance and currently the world has too many children bought up in captivity. I’m fully aware of the dangers but calculated risks are always worth taking.

    • Rachel
      July 28, 2016 / 8:38 pm

      Oh god no! I would never confine her. She already has a gorgeous outgoing personality and I wouldn’t do anything to squash that. I was just getting at how times have changed from my childhood days to now.
      Thanks very much for commenting x

  7. July 28, 2016 / 6:50 pm

    Yes – this is so true and does make me feel a bit sad. I guess there are some things that my daughters will experience growing up that I didn’t, the most prominent being that I always wanted a sister and got lumbered with a brother seven years younger! So while I feel they’re going to miss out on some of the lovely innocent times that I had, they’ll gain in others. Really enjoyed reading this for #ABloggingGoodTime

  8. July 28, 2016 / 4:44 pm

    I also had such a fab childhood in the countryside in Ireland. I still live in the country but like you, I would be more nervous about letting my child out of sight. I was actually watching a tv programme about this recently and statistically a child is no more likely to be abducted now compared to 50 years ago but I think it’s with the global news coverage and social media that we are more aware of all the bad stuff. #ablogginggoodtime

  9. July 28, 2016 / 11:38 am

    This really bothers me too. Our childhood was so much more innocent and simple which I loved and hope to somehow let J have that experience but he will not be freely out for the day aged 10 like my OH was as I would be far too scared!! #triballove

  10. July 28, 2016 / 11:04 am

    I know exactly what you mean. I remember when I grew up, I used to meet my friends in town, play in our road with all the other kids, go for massive long bike rides all without parents. Either it was safer or because we didn’t have the internet you just didn’t hear about bad things happening as much. I try and limit the amount of screen time Clem has. We go out and about a lot. It’s one of the reasons why we have decided to move. We currently live in commuters ville, there isn’t much to do other than go to a park. #triballove

  11. July 28, 2016 / 9:12 am

    Oh gosh, you have said all of my concerns here and I have a post going out tomorrow where I talk about this and how this one of our reasons for moving to Jersey. I loved my childhood and I wish that I could replicate that for my two 🙁 xxx Lovely post.

    • Rachel
      July 28, 2016 / 10:14 am

      Thanks Emma. It’s hard isn’t it as we all want the best for our children. x

  12. July 28, 2016 / 9:00 am

    Fab post lovely – I completely agree and sometimes get sad that Emma won’t have the same kind of childhood to me either. We used to just go and play at someone’s house until it was dark and my mum didn’t have to worry at all. Now I get worried if I have to step away from the buggy when we’re out for a second, as you just never know. It’s sad that we have to be so careful, but I hope our lovely babies will have just as happy and carefree a childhood as we did. #triballove

    • Rachel
      July 28, 2016 / 10:15 am

      oh yes me too! x

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *